All of these women are what the world would consider beautiful, sexy, and everything that a guy would want. They have the perfect bodies, the perfect smile with pearl white teeth, the most amazing golden skin-tone, and hair that stays perfectly in place no matter what they do. These women are our idols. These are the women that we work our tails off to mirror.
All three of these perfect women have something in common: photoshop and plastic surgery.
So why then, do we work so hard to achieve something that is literally impossible? Why do we spend hours beating ourselves up because we don't look like these women? They aren't real. This picture that we paint in our minds of how we're supposed to be is what messes us up so much. Our generation's self-esteem is ruined because of these expectations. Now, while this blog seems to be targeting the unrealistic expectations of how women are supposed to look, this also goes for the men of our generation. Women expect a man that looks like Channing Tatum or Chris Hemsworth...Ladies, they're fake, too. If you set you're expectations on these people who are not real, then they will never be achieved. Don't get this confused with lowing your standards. I'm simply saying that maybe both men and women should re-check their expectations to meet reality. But reality is not bad people...That's our problem. We think that reality is horrible. Reality is exactly what we make it. We make our own reality. So if you think that reality is terrible, then maybe you should look in the mirror instead of looking around you. You have the power to at any moment to decide that your story is going to change. If you don't like something that is in your life, or if you're unhappy, then you have the power to change or eliminate those things. It's your story. You are the author of your life.
Now let me touch on what is really beautiful:
This little girl was diagnosed with cancer about three years ago. She lost all of her hair, her energy, and her childhood, but yet, she still smiles. She loves her story. She has a family that loves her, friends that love her, but most importantly, she has a God that loves her. If she can smile, so can you.
These two children are victims of starvation in Ghana, Africa. They were able to receive help from the United Nations International Children's Emergency Fund and are now in good health. They spent most of their childhood with minimal clothing, food to keep them barely alive, and wonder if they'd see tomorrow. If they can smile, so can you.
You are beautiful. You are exactly what God intended for you to be. If there is anyone in your life that makes you think otherwise, then it's time to change your story. Change your story so there are no evil people. Easier said than done, right? WRONG. It's as easy or as hard as YOU make it. We tend to forget that things are the way that we make them. People are only in our lives as long as we let them be. Whatever is taking away your smile, eliminate it.
Some of the best advice that has ever been given to me was this: Try to find a companion that is so focused on God that he (or she) has to look to Him, to see you. Only then have you found a man (or woman). The rest are only boys (or girls).
The most important thing I want you readers to take from this blog is simply that you are the author of your life. At any moment, you have the ability to change anything. Stop comparing yourselves to those women that are photoshopped and have more plastic than a Barbie doll. Don't make that your story. Don't waste your story on unrealistic expectations. You only get to write one book. Make it worth reading.
